Note : This is not a complaint post, but just a few examples based on true stories.
When I read about this post by Angeline, I just got to nod in agreement. This is just so right and it is happening in my life!
YX likes colouring, but he hates to keep them after used. MIL hate the sight of messy house and thus, nagging at YX hoping he will clears off his mess. YX turned deaf ears. I nag at him too, and he ignored me. Then, I decided to use my father's method - psychology. My dad always believe kids can be psychologically train and does not always necessary be caned. This method only works when I'm in good mood and have the patience, ya.
Me: YX, please keep your GREEN colours.
YX : *without much hesitation* OK OK...GREEN !
Me : Next, BLUE colour. PURPLE, ORANGE, BLACK and so on.
In less than 5 minutes, all the colour pencils are kept in the box neatly. The floor looks tidy too.
However, in between MIL commented "Aiya...pick up everything at one go la. Why must choose colour". YX ignored her and excitedly search for the colour I mentioned.
Mother said like this, Grandma said like that, leaving the child confused.
YX loves to play with the plastic food cover (those we use to cover our food on the table). He will put his rubber ducklings and his toy doggies inside and create his own stories. As long as the 'tools' he used are not DANGEROUS, HARMFUL or will cause WASTAGE, I will allowed him to play as I love kids to be creative by using their own imagination. But not for SIL. When I was busy with something else, .......
SIL : YX, put them back NOW! Don't play with those food covers. It is not your TOYS!
YX : No, that is my doggie's house. I want to play. (of course he will protest because he was allowed to play with it for the past 10 minutes, not until SIL saw)
SIL : I said KEEP!
When mother ALLOWED, but aunty said NO. Child confused!
YX : Ah Ma, I want to eat apple.
MIL : Cannot, you are still coughing. Wait till you gets better first, ok?
Run to Grandpa who was munching some apples and requested for the same.
Grandma said NO, Grandpa said YES. Child confused.
MIL : YX, eat on your own.
Me : Nevermind, I will feed him.
I don't mind feeding him even I'm very hungry because I just love to see him eating with great appetite. Moreover, how long can I still feed him before he feels embarrassed to be fed ?
When Grandma insist on INDEPENDENTS, the mother SPOILT THE KID. Child confused.