Last Sunday, we went out for lunch together with SIL + family. During mealtime, I nearly chocked on my food when YX said........
YX : Mama, Why is that uncle so FAT ? (in a loud tone)
He was referring to a man sitting behind our table. I'm not too sure if he heard what YX said, but was hopping he did not. My 1st reaction was to tell YX "Boy, you can't say this so LOUD" !! and quickly turned my head to check what is that uncle's reaction. Phew! I don't think he heard (or maybe he ignore) because he was busy chatting with his friend while enjoying his lunch.
Then, I told YX that next time, please do not pass such remark so LOUD in front of the 'victim' because you will make that someone ANGRY and DISSAPOINTED. As I know he was just curious and wanted to share his honest opinion, I can't stop him. Instead, I advised him to tell me this type of remark when :
1) There are nobody around (only me and you)
2) We left the shop and away from that 'victim'
I really cannot help laughing inside but must still show my serious face, so YX will understand this is VERY WRONG.
Do you have any other better way to advise a child who gave out such a blunt/harsh comment?
Note: I really hope that uncle did not hear that. So sorry uncle !